Marriage And Our Faith

What does marriage and sex have to do with our faith in Jesus? Is there any real connection between the two? The truth is that they are connected very closely. Our faith will determine how we feel about marriage and how we treat it. Also our marriage will affect our relationship with Jesus (God).

Our Body Is God’s Temple

This is the first thing that we need to realize. When we become a Christian, our body is no longer our own. We have made it the dwelling place of God here on the earth. When Jesus left the earth He said: John 14:16 (NKJV): “And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever.” This “Helper” is the Holy Spirit. He does not just wander the earth. He only lives in born-again Christians. Our body is the Temple of God.

Listen to I Cor. 6:19 (NKJV) where it says: “Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?” The next verse goes on to say 1 Cor. 6:20 (NKJV): “For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

Our body is the Temple of God here on the earth. One reason that God created us was for the purpose of creating a dwelling place for Himself on this earth. Yes, in the Old Testament, that was the purpose of the Jewish Temple. But in the New Testament, something changes.

Jesus came to die on the Cross for our salvation. Then when He ascended back into heaven, He promised to send the Holy Spirit so that He (God) could live with and in us forever. It is at that point that our bodies became the earthly Temple of God.

Sex In God’s Temple?

So how do we combine the fact that our body is the Temple of God and at the same time, the fact that God has given us sex for our use and enjoyment? It is very simple. Only use sex within the boundary that God has set. And that boundary is marriage.

I know, for many, to even think of this is a sin. But, please keep in mind that sex was created for us as a sacred bond between a husband and a wife. There is nothing sinful about this. In fact, God not only expects it, He commands it (See I Cor. 7:3-5).

So, sex is not a sinful act because we sexually join ourselves to our spouse. Not at all. Sex is not a sinful act within marriage, but rather a sacred act between the husband and wife.

Remember these facts.

  1. Genesis 2:24 (NKJV): “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” When a man and a woman marry, in God’s eyes, they are no longer two individuals but one. Thus, sex can become a fulfilling experience between them and they do not violate the fact that their bodies are Temples of God.
  2. God made sure that the Song of Solomon was included in our Bible. Why? So that we could know and fully experience the wonders of sex that God provided for us when He created us.

This is why sex is only to be used within marriage. God has sanctified the sexual act within marriage. However, outside of marriage, it is the most grievous sin that we can commit. See my article on “Why Did God Create Sex?”

Sex And Our Relationship With God

Many will say: “What does sex have to do with our relationship with God? The truth is that one of the reasons that God made sex such a powerful emotion is to help us to realize what our relationship with God should be. Throughout the Old Testament, God uses sexual terminology when He talks about our relationship with Him. Then, He also uses it when He talks about His people going off and worshipping other gods. In fact, the whole book of Hosea is about Israel becoming a harlot (prostitute) because they were worshipping false gods.

When we commit ourselves to God, it needs to be a more powerful bond than we feel when we engage in sex with our spouse. If we can understand the powerful bond created through sex, we can get an inclining of just how powerful our bond with God can and should be.

We Need To Marry Within Our Faith

Here is another very important fact that we need to remember. Since sex creates such a powerful bond between a husband and wife, we need to be very careful who we create that bond with. When you marry, you marry for the rest of your life here on this earth.

Now keep in mind why God put you on this earth in the first place. You were created to spend eternity with God. But you can only do this if you freely choose to do so. Remember God created you as a free creature and He will not force you to live with and love Him if you do not want to. If you want to know more about this, see my article on “What Is My Purpose For Living” and other articles on the Afterlife.

If your spouse is not a believer, you will be tempted every day to turn your back on God. An unbelieving spouse will have their mind on the things of this world. So, an unbelieving spouse can easily lead you away from God. Do you want to take the chance on giving up your chance to live with God forever, just so you can enjoy a short time of life here on the earth?

“But,” you say, “I can change him/her.” Many have tried this and many have failed. Keep in mind that if he/she is not willing to give his/her life to Jesus while he/she is trying to win you over, he/she will have very little incentive to do so after you are married.

Remember II Cor. 6:14 (NKJV): “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?”

Why did God make sure that this statement was in His Bible? When you and your spouse believe the same, you can pray for and lift up each other in prayer. You are no longer just trying to live under your own power but your spouse has doubled your spiritual power. And you have doubled your spouse’s spiritual power. In other words, you are both less likely to fall into sin.

Are You Already Married To An Unbeliever?

But what if you are already married to an unbeliever? Should you divorce the unbeliever? Not according to Jesus. Remember what Jesus said in Matthew 19:6 (NKJV): “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Then He also said in Matthew 19:9 (NKJV): “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery;.”

In fact I Cor. 7:12-13 (NKJV) specifically says: “If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.”

If you are in this situation, you now have a very special job to do. First, you need to strengthen your faith in, and your relationship with, Jesus to the extent that your spouse cannot lead you away from God. Second, it is now your duty to win your spouse over to Jesus, no matter how hard that is. Also, keep in mind that this is done through love, not coercion. Remember, if you do win your spouse to Jesus, your reward will be, not just here on this earth, but also in heaven.


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