Marriage And Society

Why did God create marriage? Why did He design it like He did? We could talk about procreation and this is important. But even animals procreate and reproduce themselves. What is different about humans? God created us live within a society. We were created to live in relationships with each other and with God.

Yet, we are born with only a desire to be loved. We are not born with the desire to love others or to even to acceptably relate to each other. And this is necessary for a harmonious society. Look at societies that do not teach this type of love to their children and you can see the disharmony that is in that society.

Marriage Creates a Stable Society

God created marriage so that children would be raised to honor God and know how to relate to God. Why is this necessary? Couldn’t God have created us with this knowledge inbred in us? He could have, but He didn’t. Remember, God wanted to create a creature that could and would freely share His great love. Remember this very important point. Love, by its very nature, cannot be commanded, it can only be freely given.

Thus, all children are born as a blank slate. They know nothing except that they want to be loved. They need to be taught everything else. What is the best atmosphere in which to raise a child in that needs to be taught everything? The answer is, within a family that is formed by a loving husband and wife. In other words, within a family that has already learned how to love God and to love each other.

Adam and Eve were not raised by a father and mother that knew and loved God. This is why they were so easily temped and allowed sin to enter their lives. Yes, God came into the Garden each evening and talked with them. Yes, God did nave fellowship with them, but only for short periods each day.

But they did not have the benefit of loving parents constantly being with them and teaching them every minute what they needed to know. They did not have parents who immediately stopped them from doing the wrong thing as soon as they saw what was happening.

So when Satan came and tempted them, they were on their own. (God would not appear to them again until evening.) Thus, when Satan tempted them, they had not yet gained the strength to resist his temptation. Yes, God did anticipate that this would happen and He did prepare for it, even before it happened.

1 Peter 1:20 (Living Bible):”God chose him [Jesus] for this purpose long before the world began, but only recently was he brought into public view, in these last days, as a blessing to you.”

You can read more about how Satan tempts us to sin in my article on “What Is Sin?

God created us to live in loving, God-fearing families so that we can teach our children to learn to love, not only other humans, but also to love God.

Why is this important? Children that are raised in God-fearing families have a wonderful opportunity to learn how to love and how to share love. Thus, when they grow up and go out into the world, they will continue the God-loving society that their parents live in.

God emphasized this in Malachi 2:15 (NKJV) where He says this about marriage between a husband and wife: “But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring.”

Does Everyone Need To Be Married?

Does this mean that in order to please God, we must all be married? No, not at all. However, it does mean that if we are going to bring children into this world, we need to be married in order to raise those children in a God-fearing atmosphere.

The Bible does not say that everyone should be married. Yes, God created Eve because He saw that Adam was lonely and need a special companion to be with him. Yet, God, in I Cor. 7:8 said that it is alright for the unmarried and widows to remain unmarried.

In fact, God also tells us something that is very important. I Cor. 7:32-33 (NKJV) says: “But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord–how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world–how he may please his wife.” He goes on to say the same thing about wives; that their priority is to please their husbands.

Keep in mind that God is not saying that to be married is a bad thing, that it will keep us from loving God as we should. Remember the whole Bible is God’s message to us and none of it will contradict any other. Simply read some of my other articles on marriage and you will see how important marriage is to God.

God is simply saying in the above passage that if you are not married, you have the opportunity to please God in a different way than married couples do. God is saying that both ways of life are important.

But it takes a special calling to remain single for the purpose of serving God. All humans have a sexual drive built in them. That is how God created us. However, if God has called you to remain single so that you can serve God better, God will give you all you need to resist sexual temptation and yet at the same time have a loving attitude toward others.

Godly Marriages Change Society

The future generation depends upon the present generation. In fact, God tells us how important it is to train our children to love and serve God. Exodus 20:5 (NKJV): “For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me.”

Why does God say that He punishes the children of sinful fathers? Are not the children of these sinful fathers born with the ability to serve God, even if their father doesn’t? Yes, they are. They are free to make their own choices.

So, what is God saying? He is saying something very important. As the sinful father teaches his children his sinful ways, they learn to live sinful lives. They actually start life with a disadvantage. They have learned to live sinful lives instead of righteous lives. Because of this, they start their life serving Satan instead of serving God. So, what happens? Unless they get into a situation where they do learn about God and His love for them, they will continue on in the sinful ways of their father. This can last for many generations.

God is not saying that this is what He wants. He is saying that, because of the nature of sin, this is what happens.

Of course, the opposite also happens. When children are raised in a God-fearing atmosphere, they learn to love and serve God. When they are raised in an atmosphere where God is loved and followed, the children usually follow in their parents’ footsteps.

Final Thoughts

Do you need to be married to adequately serve God? No! According to the Bible, both styles of living are pleasing to God.

However, if you are single, I believe, in the society in which we live, that you do have a special responsibility. In America, there are millions of single parents. They need all the help that they can get, especially from Christians. As a single, you have much more freedom to help these single parents. So I ask this question. What can you do to alleviate some of the burdens that have been heaped upon these single parents?


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