Marriage Is God’s Idea

Marriage is the basic foundation of human existence. It is also is the foundation of the family. Thus, marriage is the basic living unit for all existence on the earth.

This does not mean that we must be married. In fact, some people choose not to be married. And there is nothing wrong with it. Many born-again spirit-filled Christians choose not to marry. However, we must remember something about marriage.

Marriage Is the Foundation For Living

All human life is based upon marriage. It is the only way that the human race can multiply. After God created the human race as male and female (Genesis 1:27), He said: Genesis 1:28 (NIV): “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.”

Further proof of this fact is found in Genesis 2:24 (NIV): “For this reason (marriage) a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Through marriage (including sex), the man and women become united to the extent that God considers them as “one flesh.”

Thus, God established marriage is a union only between a man and a woman. According to God, marriage cannot be between a man and another man or between a woman and another woman.

What “One Flesh” Means

To understand what “one flesh” means, we need to understand that the Hebrew word for “one” (ekhawd) often denotes a compound unity, not a single unity. For instance, Genesis 11:6 says “the people are one.” Here are a number of different individuals being grouped together as one unit.

The same idea is found in Genesis 25:23 (NIV): “Two nations are in your womb, and two peoples from within you will be separated; one (ekhawd) people will be stronger than the other, and the older will serve the younger.”

Within the sexual act, we become, in some mysterious way, two individual people united spiritually as one. It is no wonder that God condemns adultery as being evil. In fact, it is such an evil act that God lists many specific acts that are included in committing adultery. These are found in Leviticus 18.

Marriage Does Not Make Us “One Person”

Just because we become “one flesh,” does not mean that there will never be any disagreements between a married couple. Neither does it mean that they will always do exactly the same thing and never be temporarily separated from each other. A husband and a wife are still two separate human beings and each will still have different interests.

However, as we do become one flesh, certain things must happen. The first is that both the husband and wife will develop the same basic goals in life and they will work as one toward those goals. They will live in harmony with each other, even as we live in harmony with God. If we do not do this, we cannot be happily married.

Some Couples Only Have Physical Marriages

It is true that there are some marriages that seem to defy this principle. The husband and wife each have different goals in life. One is active in a church and the other isn’t or they both belong to different churches. They don’t seem to have similar interests. Yet, they have remained married for many, many years.

Thus, many couples will continue on in this type of marriage, thinking that they have the best marriage they could have. This keeps them together and for all intents and purposes they are happily married and no one can tell them any differently. It is sad that they never find out what they have missed.

Marriage Fulfills a God-given Responsibility

This is the very reason that God created men and women as He did. As we fulfill each others needs, we create a loving relationship through which children can learn to become the loving creatures which God intended for them to be.

Broken homes rob children of this great advantage. When a man impregnates a woman and then leaves her, he is shirking his God-given responsibility. He is telling God that he doesn’t need Him and that he doesn’t want anything to do with Him or His way of life.

He is telling his wife that she doesn’t need him and that he certainly doesn’t need her. He is telling his children that he wants no responsibility for them and that he really doesn’t care what happens to them. In other words, he is going against everything that God created him to be.

We must realize that God created men and women in very specific ways for a very specific purpose. We must accept the differences between men and women and then use those differences to become the people that God designed us to be.

We must strengthen our relationships by using our strengths to help our spouse and accept our weaknesses by allowing our spouse to give us the help we need. We must learn to rely, not only on God, but also on each other. This is the message of the Christian Marriage.


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