Why Stay Married

Although studies do differ, the common understanding is that in America, 50% of those who marry will get a divorce. This is a startling statistic. Yet it does help us realize why morality has become so unimportant in America. If the most sacred institution that God created has become so unimportant to us, it is no wonder that morality is also so unimportant.

Even Secular Studies Show the Importance of Marriage

AmericanValues.org published an article listing the 26 reasons that marriage matters. These 26 reasons show us that marriage is the normal and necessary institution among humans. In other words, if we are going to have a healthy and stable society, it must be founded on marriages established between one man and one woman.

This same organization then published a second publication in which they reached 3 fundamental conclusions.

  1. Marriage is an important social good, associated with an impressively broad array of positive outcomes for children and adults alike.
  2. Marriage is an important public good, associated with a range of economic, health, educational, and safety benefits that help local, state, and federal governments serve the common good.
  3. The benefits of marriage extend to poor and minority communities, despite the fact that marriage is particularly fragile in these communities.

God Established Marriage from the Beginning

Genesis 2:18-25 tells us how and why God created both a male and a female and put them together in a relationship that we now call marriage. One human being, by himself, was very lonely and no animal could satisfy that loneliness. Then God created another human, not exactly like the original, but rather one who would complement and complete him.

Then God said: Genesis 2:24 (NIV): “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

Strong’s Concordance tells us that the Hebrew word “echad” that is translated “one” in this passage means “united into one.” In other words, what was once two individuals, God now considers one entity.

However, we do not have to understand what becoming “one flesh” means. All we have to realize is that Jesus said that it was a fact and we should not try to undo what God created.

Jesus emphasized this fact in Matt. 19:4-6 where He says: “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” (NIV)

If there is no other reason to stay married, this is it. This is the way that God created us and intended for us to live. If we want the best that God has to offer us, we will experience it in and through marriage.

Marriage Results in Children

Genesis 1:28 tells us the first reason for marriage. Genesis 1:28 (NIV) “God blessed them and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.’” This is why God created marriage to be only between a man and a woman. Two men or two women cannot reproduce themselves.

As we study the Scriptures we discover that God wants us to raise up mature God-fearing children. This can only happen in a stable God-fearing marriage.

There are exceptions to every rule. However, it is not wise to look for the exception. God established rules for marriage because they are what will work. If you are single and are raising up God-fearing children, more power to you. But remember, you are the exception, not the rule.

Christian Marriages Influence Other People

The best witness that a Christian couple can give to another married couple is to show them how wonderful a Christian marriage can be. If they can see that all problems can be solved through your dependence upon God, it will give them hope for their own marriage.

If other couples can look at your marriage and see how wonderful marriage can be, they will have hope for their own marriage. No, you do not have to be a counseling couple, you just have to be a light in the darkness. You just have to show others, by how you live, that it is possible for them to have that same wonderful life.

Are You Married to an Unbeliever?

First of all, I Cor. 7:12-13 says that if the unbeliever wants to stay married, you are not to divorce him/her. The passage then goes on and tells us why.

1 Cor. 7:14 (NIV): “For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.”

What does this mean? It means that you are protecting your spouse from demonic forces. They can reject your protection, but at least you are giving them a chance to accept God into their life. And as long as they accept your protection (even unknowingly), they will find it much easier to accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.

So you have an opportunity that no one else has. No, it may not be easy, but if you do win your spouse to Jesus, just think of what a wonderful thing you have done.


Remember, this information is only for those who are already married. I have said nothing about being single or if you are divorced. There is nothing wrong with being single, you will just have more challenges. And if you are already divorced, God does have an answer for you. In the future, I will write about the wonderful life that God does have for singles and for those who have divorced.

But for those of you who are married, God says to stay married. You are bonded to your spouse in a very special way that God does not want destroyed. If you re having problems, there are many helps that are available for you. Find a good Christian counselor and work through your problems. God will bless you for it.


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